By Rajgopal Nidamboor
All of us have our dreams, ambitions and goals. While some of us are expressively explicit about them, others are not as eloquent — for a host of reasons. Put simply, the whole context, on the one hand, may be a result of humility and, on the other, a consequence of sheer shyness, conservatism, or cultural upbringing.
Defining your mellowness, or maturity, is, likewise, another idiom — on either side of the spectrum. It is powered by the scale of your learning, or life experience. It is nothing short of emerging wisdom — which first begins when one accepts emotions as the ‘totality’ of one’s understanding, along with the ability to learning at every step. It also adds credence to one’s ‘cause’ with a certain ‘effect’ — of owning a sense of responsibility for outcomes, big or small.
Leading, and not just living, an emotionally mature life provides us with the capability to learn and perceive, and not just observe things as they are. It bids fair to realising our psychical connectedness with oneself and also others in addition to contributing our humble bit to the community. It opens to us the whole process of self-discovery without self-aggrandisement, pomp, shame, fear, or guilt. It gives us the wherewithal to think of ourselves as we are — not what someone else wants us to project, or pretend to be. This endows us with an uncanny ability to sing and dance to our own tune — not others’ tune — and, feel fulfilled. In other words, the whole idea of learning, at every step, takes us to a higher plane, where we are able to articulate our opinions and concur with others without being biased. or dogmatic.
Rajgopal Nidamboor, PhD, is a wellness physician-writer-editor, independent researcher, columnist, author, and publisher. His published work includes hundreds of newspaper, magazine, Web articles, essays, meditations, columns, and critiques on a host of subjects, aside from four books on natural health, two coffee table tomes, a handful of eBooks, and an encyclopedic treatise on Indian philosophy. He calls himself an irrepressible idealist. What he likes best is spending quality time with his family and close friends, and in reading, writing, listening to music, watching cricket/old movies, and mindful meditation. He lives in Navi Mumbai, India.
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