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On Loneliness, Solitude, Boredom and Niksen!

By Kiron Shenoy


Last month I was in a coastal state of India for a few days on some personal work.

I was alone and had plans to go around the city. However, the heat wave had set in and the humidity & temperatures were at absurd levels. I cancelled the cab and dropped my plans. I decided to stay back and just stay put confined in less than 1000sq.ft of space.

That is the time that my barometer shifted from loneliness to solitude bliss! Without any guilt of boredom, I remembered the art of Niksen-ing! A Dutch form of doing nothing and enjoying it.

So I de-cluttered the place, spruced it up, connected with friends and local guys online and ordered food online too. There was not a tinge of loneliness nor feeling of getting bored! Probably the silent AC was a wonderful friend…

I sat in solitude on a reclining couch and thought of all the lovely things that has happened in my life and how fortunate I was to be healthy and stable. I silently thanked all the people close to me and showed feelings of gratitude for what they have done for me! That one day was a blessing for me as I came out rejuvenated.

As we move into the 2nd innings of our life as senior citizens, there is always a tendency to feel lonely and bored. This can lead to depression and mental breakdowns. We miss our loved ones who may have gone far away to build their nests!

In conclusion-look for vistas and space that makes you happy. Even been alone can make you happy, if you are in the right frame of mind. Don’t brood over the past nor worry of the future! Live your present moment.

Have a great month of June!


Kiron Shenoy is a happy man. He's here to share his stories. Email him at to tell him what you think.


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